The one that thing will change how you approach EVERYTHING in life



Did you know there is one KEY element that will make or break your goals- whether it’s balanced eating, getting into a workout routine, reading more books, reaching that career goal?


It’s the thing that will hold you back from going all the way, or propel you forward into that person you desire to be.


It’s probably not what you’d expect. Like I mentioned in last week’s post about creating a plan for your goals in 2021, it’s not about willpower or motivation that helps us to reach our goals- it’s having a clear vision based on our values, breaking it down, creating habits to maintain the goal-- and the most important element I haven’t yet talked about, your MINDSET.


Our mindset is EVERYTHING when it comes to creating change.


What is mindset?

Your mindset is your frame of mind, it’s how you view the world. It’s a collection of thoughts and beliefs that fuel your actions and reactions. Simply put, our mindset dictates both our response and our interpretation of the world around us.


Why is mindset important for creating change?

Our mindset powers our thoughts and our thoughts fuel our emotions, and our emotions fuel our actions. In order to change our thoughts and fuel positive actions towards change, we need to shift our mindset.


An example of this: If we view the world as all-bad, nothing is good, nothing is going to change and we allow ourselves to think like this on a regular basis, this is going to fuel the way we react and act in the world. If we see another bad headline, we immediately go to “of course, it’s just going to get worse, the world is doomed,” and we act accordingly. We might not make plans for the future if we’re sure the world is doomed, we might frivolously spend our money because it doesn’t matter anyway, we might not take care of ourselves, because what’s the point?


The same thing goes for how we view ourselves and our ability to change. If we don’t believe we have the ability to change our habits, and create a better life for ourselves (the vision we created) we will NEVER change, because our mindset will continue to direct us back to what we believe is an impossibility.


If instead, we believe fully we CAN create change and the better life we have imagined in our vision, we can intentionally direct our thoughts, and then our actions, towards those positive changes.


If instead, we believe fully we CAN create change and the better life we have imagined in our vision, we can intentionally direct our thoughts, and then our actions, towards those positive changes.

As you might have noticed in these examples, our beliefs around what is and isn’t possible power our mindset. But here’s what’s cool- shifting our mindset can shift our beliefs, over time, positively perpetuating the mindset. Our brain only believes what we tell it. So if we intentionally shift our mindset, we can in turn, shift our beliefs over time. It’s a positive feedback loop.


The Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck popularized the idea of a growth mindset versus a fixed mindset. If we have a fixed mindset and think that our ability is innate, then a failure makes us doubt ourselves as a person. In contrast, if we have a growth mindset, we know we’re not always going to succeed, and a failure is an opportunity for learning and growth, moving forward instead of staying stuck in the failure.


Our brain only believes what we tell it. So if we intentionally shift our mindset, we can in turn, shift our beliefs over time. It’s a positive feedback loop.

Have you ever felt this with trying to become a balanced eater? If every time the diet fails, you deem yourself a failure, you allow yourself to stay stuck until you try again (often time the same thing, over and over, blaming yourself- not the dieting). Once you can shift your mindset to one of realizing, “Huh, maybe that wasn’t it- maybe I can learn from that and move forward into something new” (hopefully balance, instead of the diet cycle) we can continue to move forward instead of staying in the same cycle of blame and shame.


How do we shift our mindset?

It starts with getting in touch with our beliefs around what is or isn’t possible.

In the book Mindset, Carol Dweck tells the story of high school student Jimmy who wasn’t doing well in school. When he sat through a session describing the growth mindset, he all of a sudden realized, “You mean I don’t have to be dumb?” From that point, Jimmy became a hard-working student. Mindsets are powerful.


So let me ask you, then: What beliefs are you holding about the changes you want to make?


How can you expand your view of what is possible to shift your mindset towards one of GROWTH, this new year?


If you want the tools to begin to shift your mindset towards one of growth and possibility this new year, I want to invite you to join Simplify & Thrive, a free challenge put on by myself and Sarah Dalton from A Simply Big Life, to enter into the new year with inspiration and actionable tools to hone in on your vision for your best life, create simple routines and habits for a less stressed schedule, meal routine and an overall healthier, happier life. Through 10 days of prompts, videos and a workbook to help to inspire balance and simplicity in the new year, in every area, we’ll talk about creating a vision for the new year, defining our core values, learn how to audit our energy, create positive habits, create a framework for routines, and do a weekly refresh for a positive start to every week. We are SO excited to team up and share this life-changing 10-day challenge with you, in a realistic, doable format. Head to healthymamakris.com/thrive to join for free.







Kristin Dovbniak

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I'm Kris! Founder of Healthy Balanced Mama, I'm a holistic health coach, certified intuitive eating counselor, trained chef, and mama of two, and I'm here to guide busy moms like you in stressing less and finding freedom with food through balanced eating and simplified routines around meal planning, meal prep, grocery shopping and cooking with confidence.

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