It’s that time of year again— when the #januarywhole30 has come and gone, the diet you started on New Year’s day has lost it’s magic touch and you’re experiencing a plateau (once again) or you feel like a failure (for the fifth time in two years) after doing so good for six whole weeks. That time.
Here’s the thing, mama, you’re not a failure. That diet? It’s failing you. Diets, in general, are failing you. And yes- I categorized the Whole 30 as a diet. Because as much as it has it’s merits (we should all take a look at the added sugar in our diet and perhaps eliminate some foods that could be causing us symptoms), restriction by any other name is just that- restriction. Until you are able to comfortably go about your life without feeling like you ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t eat certain foods, you are trapped. Simple as that.
Trapped, in a diet mindset of should and shouldn’t, can’ts and cans, good and bad food… mama, food has no soul- it is not good nor is it bad. It’s simply FOOD. There are foods that nourish us and foods that don’t, and foods that are simply for enjoyment, but when it comes down to it, food has no morals. It is simply what we eat.
Until you are able to comfortably go about your life without feeling like you ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t eat certain foods, you are trapped. Simple as that.
I’m guilty, myself, of calling foods ‘good’ or ‘better’, because I do believe there is a better— for you. And there is a better— for me. And I strive to be better, each and every day. But that doesn’t mean I base my food choices solely off of better. And believe me when I say, it took me more than 10 years to get here.
So where is here? Here is the place I like to call your beautiful balance. The place where you eat without restrictions or guilt, to both nourish your body and enjoy life. The place where the foods you eat are a choice, and whether you choose a donut or a kale salad is completely up to you, and not what some book, diet program or blog tells you (yes, even mine). It’s the place where the majority of foods you choose are foods that nourish you, because I believe there is a happy medium between simply eating intuitively (if some of us ate entirely ‘intuitively’, without taking our needs into consideration we would intuitively eat brownies all day) and eating to nourish. And that place? It’s different for all of us.
Some days, you might choose the kale salad. And some days you might choose the donut. Only you, through working through the restrictive hold of the diet mindset and gaining information on how your own body reacts and responds to foods, can choose when and where you will choose these foods. Sometimes you’ll choose right, and sometimes you’ll choose wrong (and only you will be able to tell which one it was in that moment).
As Maya Angelou powerfully stated; “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”
I strive to help you do better. To release yourself from the hold of constantly feeling like food is good or bad and and seeing it instead, as a choice to nourish, enjoy, or both- there is room for all of it in your beautiful balance (that’s why it’s called balance).
There is no perfect diet, for me or for you. Balance changes on a day to day basis, for each and every one of us and finding that space, without needing a meal plan or someone to tell you what to do (though I’m here to help you on your journey) is, I believe, the ultimate space of self love and health.
We are all unique, with individual physiologies, and therefore different needs. My better is different than your better, and my balance different than yours. What I do in my practice and in my Clean Lean Mama program is help you find that balance, by first educating you on the basics of what a healthful diet looks like, start to individualize it for your body and how to take that baseline and modify it to allow for enjoyment and living life. With a little education and a whole lot of work, (I never said it was easy) inside and out, what results is your beautiful balance- that space of choice, not cheat, and enjoyment, instead of guilt.
Mama, I want you to feel the freedom of unrestricted eating in a way that nourishes your body, mind and soul, heals your physiological shortcomings and your relationship with food, all at once. What I wish for you, mama, is that you will love yourself enough to find your beautiful balance.